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How do we get our children to do what needs to be done?

Sep 05, 2019
 

How do we actually get our children to do what needs to be done? It is a tough one and it is something we talk about a lot in my one on one coaching sessions.  The truth is, it is a tricky one and we often need to explore what motivates your child specifically.

 Here are some tips to help motivate your child:

  1. One step simple instructions.  Please do not interrupt that task with further instructions, as it will distract them.

  2. Be visual have a chart or draw out what they need to do.  Have the action of moving the paperclip down the side of the paper or ticking the task...
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The wonderful art of saying NO more often...

Aug 26, 2019
How are you at saying no? 
 
This is something most women are sooooo bad at! It is a fine art. I used to be a chronic yes person. Learning to say no is one of the best things you can learn. 
 
You see as a parent of a child with special needs our lives run with a level of intensity that is higher than others. It can be faster, more extreme.  We need to protect ourselves and a key tool to this is to become one with the word NO.
 
Yet so many of us continue to say yes to commitments when our hearts and mind scream no! We overcommit ourselves and fill up our...
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To the mum who lost her sh*t today...

Aug 19, 2019

We have all done it.  Our kids slowly wear us down. Our tolerance level gets exceeded and we lose it. We say things we don't mean.  We spew venom out of our mouths.  You may even hate your child in this moment.  You may resent them.  You may want to walk out the door and never come back.

I get you.  I have been there.  Raising kids that have behavioural challenges is hard work. I have freakin lost it.  Out of sheer frustration I have thrown things.  I have said really mean things.  I have googled boarding schools.  I have wanted to...

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How to plan a party for a special needs kid (when you are worried that no one will show up)

Aug 13, 2019

So often I see posts on facebook from parents in distress because no one showed up to their child's party.  You can only imagine the heartbreak that they feel in this moment and the distress that they would feel for their child. 

For the child, who may already struggle socially this can be a terrible self esteem blow and it breaks my heart. 

My ADHD husband's memories of primary school is never being invited to any parties because he was considered too 'wild' or 'out of control'.  He has carried that his whole life.

Depending on how your child goes socially, you may...

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Have you given up or are you a warrior?

Aug 05, 2019

It blows my mind when the media lead with negative traits of ADHD and special needs in general.  It is everywhere. You see, time and time again throughout history the big change makers, the big hitters, the big risk takers, the greats, the outside the box thinkers, have been people with ADHD.  So why do we only seem to hear of the negatives?  It is something that makes me cranky.  

Well it could be because these are kids are challenging to parent, the negatives are in your face.  Everyday on facebook groups there are parents at their wits end.  They...

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Self care tips for parents of children with behavioural challenges

Jul 22, 2019

We all know we need to look after ourselves... but life happens and we are looking after children that have special needs and behavioural challenges - somehow every week something seems to come up and our needs fall to the end of a very long to do list.

But the truth of the matter is, we are a seriously high burn out risk. 

Over the years I have come to realise that I was waiting for someone to swoop in and take care of me.  I didn't put myself first, everyone else's needs came first.  Sadly, if we don't look after ourselves, we wont have anything left in the tank to assist...

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What to do when your partner has ADHD...

Jun 16, 2019

I have stalled and procrastinated writing this blog because, well it is personal and it is a bit hard to talk about.

But I always want to be real with you guys.  So here goes!

I have been married to my husband for nearly 13 years.  It is a rollercoaster.  You see he is the most severely ADHD person I have ever met (and I have met a lot!).  He is a person of extremes.  He is also incredibly amazing.  I find him harder to handle than my ADHD children, mainly because I can't parent him (nor do I want to).  He has to be my partner.  

So I have put...

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What's in your freezer? (FREE inventory included)

May 27, 2019

So.... what is in your freezer?

Most people can rattle off a few things... but the truth is not many of us know exactly what is in there... what is that mystery meat hiding behind the frozen bananas? We keep buying more, spending more money and not using what we already have.  

I wanted to chat about this today, because we are focusing on saving money right now and I know that this can be challenging for people with ADHD - so this is a tool that can help.

In the ADHD and Families Online Program we talk about predictable problems and ensuring you have back up meals ready...

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