You can see it. The chaos that follows your child from room to room. The meltdowns after school. The days they can't get through the gate. The way they come home flat and tell you they're just bad at everything.

You've read the research. You've spoken to the GP. You know an assessment would help.

And the other parent says no.

Maybe they don't believe ADHD is real. Maybe they think you're overreacting, or that medication is a cop-out, or that your child just needs firmer boundaries at your place. Either way, you're advocating for your child on your own, across two houses, while carrying most...